I’ve seen various discussions all over the internet about problems with the X-card. I’m aware of most of them such as it being a blunt tool, people being dismissive of it at the table and reducing its value. I definitely agree that it is useful only as part of a wider conversation and safety culture - not as a substitute.
However I’ve also heard people talking about how it is abused and that having it at a table can make things worse. I’ve never seen this in practice - I’m British, I play with mostly British people and I’ve never seen someone use the X-card to push limits in games. I’m wondering if this is a cultural thing and there is some problem with the X-card I’m not seeing because I’m not at the gaming tables where it happens.
For clarity this is not about people ignoring the x-card or arguing back when it is invoked or demeaning it with jokes. This is about people who push limits too far when the card is on the table that otherwise they probably wouldn’t have done.
Would you be comfortable sharing examples of how having the X-card at a table has actually made it less safe rather than more safe. I’m trying to get a sense of what that would look like as I think about safely more widely.
[Edited to add: can I have first hand knowledge and examples - for the reasons stated below].